Lyn Mikel Brown, founder of Hardy Girls Healthy Women, is doing the work in the world, isn’t she? I have seen this talk a few times now and I really want you to see it. The way that she describes moving from the image of girl power that the media has co-opted to actually supporting girls to be powerful is the some of the most important work we can do. Girls are often playing roles: “I’m a good girl. I’m not a mean girl…like her.” “I like being a bitch…it’s fun!” “All that girl stuff is stupid. I’m a tomboy.” Girls are playing these roles because they are the only roles they have been given. Being confined to these labels can have a negative effect on our girls’ relationships because they don’t leave any room for mistakes, learning, and growth. “A mean girl will always be a mean girl and no matter what I say or do, she will always be mean to me.” “If I am a tomboy, I can justify making fun of other girls for the colors they wear and the toys the like to play with. ”
In Brown’s TED talk, she talks about the importance of all of us reclaiming girl as a power word. When we do this, we can start to breakdown these pre-approved roles and make space for girls to use their actual power. She highlights 5 steps in making this happen:
- Talk to girls and give girls space to talk to each in real ways.
- Ask girls curious questions about their feelings and their experiences with these roles.
- Move from believing that there is a girl problem that we have to solve and understand that girls are part of the solution.
- Support girls with the tools and resources to be these agents of change.
- Get out of the way and let girls do their thing.
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